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Kermits going away :(
Published on June 1, 2004 By Sally jacobs In Personal Relationships
Kermit's goin away on holiday for two weeks. He's only just got back and he's off again. Grrr.....I'm not looking forward to this two weeks. I have a bad feeling, ever since my nightmares about it. Bad feelings. LOL, over reacting, nahhh not me! I guess I'm just being selfish, in fact I know I am. I should be pleased he is going away for sun, sea and erm....sand! I'm just going to miss him. I need a slap I think, really I do. I'm whinging about two weeks. Could this girl get anymore clingy? Grrr....and that makes me mad to. Why should I have to worry about coming across as clingy. If I'm going to miss him, why can't I just say it. Because the GAME doesn't allow us to be that open and honest? Men and women have stereotypes that they think they have to live up to. Appear to be independent ladies. You can't have a man thinking you actually care about him. Tut tut. Life is not that simple. You have to play hard to get. Show him you like him, but don't ever let him know that you need him. Don't phone him after a date, let him phone you! If he doesn't then you did something wrong, it isn't simply that he's playing by the same rules! All these games, grrr!

The other thing that gets me is, what is it with women and men that treat them badly? Please explain it to me. I'm gulity of it myself but it winds me up. These guys that treat you badly, keep you waiting, use you, never tell you how do the majority of women react to this behaviour, they want more! I have friends complain to me about these kind of guys. That they are convinced they are the woman to change their wicked ways. This is what guys play off, a womans self worth. We think we're the special one to calm this bloke down. I mean why would he want anything else when he has us? After all the heartache, he does start to change. We break him down, and then what happens? We lose interest, and move on to the next challenge! It's popular belief that the nice guys are boring. NO! Nice guys are nice. They care about us, tell us how they feel, make us laugh, and would do just about anything for us. But we leave them for the men that confuse us. Could it be women actually enjoy the turmoil. The rollercoaser of emotions. We need to decide what we want and go for it. I'm sure deep down women want the nice guy. Not all women are the same, this is just a general thing, but at the moment ladies men are getting the last laugh, it's not a game! Stop them laughing!

The best thing about Kermit, and believe me there's alot of good things, hehe, is the honesty policy we have. I've been thinking about this quite a bit. We have put a great emphasis on being honest with each other. About everything. Our feelings, what we think, what we do, what we've done. Just complete, blind honesty. Even if we know the other won't like what we have to say, we still tell them out of respect for each other. How the other person deals with it is up to them. I like this. That honesty is the most important thing. It makes me feel secure. I know i can tell him anything. I can tell him I'm going to miss him like crazy when he goes away, and he'll take it for what it is. Honesty is the best policy and I truely believe that.

No games, though I'm sure at one point or another we have both been guilty of playing them. The whole honesty thing is just so much more important. I consider myself to be an honest person anyway. But we are all tempted, especially when it comes to feelings, to shy away from the truth, but I'm glad I don't have to do that. I'll always appreciate your honesty Kermit and respect you enough to be honest back. You're a bad boy sweety, but you'll always be my nice guy, hehe!

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on Jun 01, 2004
He seems to go away on holiday every week dear girl, I think he is messing you around.

Would you like me to send Victor to see him, I'm sure he can be persuaded to take less holidays!
on Jun 01, 2004
Haha, thanks for the offer Petey, but everyone needs a holiday don't they, and I'll be going away soon for my birthday, so I'll get my chance!
on Jun 01, 2004
Don't let any greasy Spanish waiters mount you young lady!
on Jun 01, 2004
No Dad, I won't! Hehe!
on Jun 01, 2004
I think most guys feel like women who are somewhat "clingy" are a good thing. The problem is that most women do *not* know when to stop! We like to here an "I'll miss you" as much as a woman does but when it escalates into being the only thing talked about then it has goen too far for us. yes, we are separated by distance and yes it sucks. Life still goes on... We are both still allowed to be happy and to have fun even when apart. Not every second fo the day must be devoted to pining after your significant other. That balance is the hardest thing to strike but it is well worth it.
on Jun 01, 2004
hey sweedie!! how are ya? I know how u feel about missing Kermit..am supposed to be droppin Holden off back home before I go to lalaland to see mom, but I am not big into this prospect..I feel like I only just got him!! I agree with you on the whole honesty thing, Holden's quite cool like that, maybe cuz i've known him for so long, but I can tell him pretty much everything. I don't think boys and girls will ever get it just right, but then again, i guess that's what keeps it interesting. I know the second I have a relationship that seems so perfect I freak out and start inventing problems!! Oh well..can't live with them..

Where are you going for ur birthday? OO I'd recommend Las vegas, it's even better than I though it'd be! And there really are a lot of Elvis impersonators...and old ladies (old ladies? now that i didn't expect). I get to eat actual food tonight which I'm very excited about (pathetic i know, but if i never see another candy bar again it'll be too soon). I don't know how long i'll stay with my mom, as long as I can stand to i suppose, without trying to strangle her, or her trying to kill me. Or marry me off to some oil tycoon from texas.

As for Big Brother, i didn't really watch it when it was on over here, it just made me feel weird, it's sort of voyeuristic or something, and quite boring for the most part i think. Maybe it's addictive and i just needed to watch it longer. Or maybe the british version is better )they usually are). Quelle domage!

Anyways, I wrote a new blog but it's quite short, just summing up, I've been distracted. Blame Holden!

Check back soon love Dyl xxx
on Jun 01, 2004
I dribble when I speak )
on Jun 01, 2004
Hahaha...

can of worms Sally...

remember, dont hate the player - hate the game

BAM!!!
on Jun 01, 2004
I do hate the game, I thought I was pretty diplomatic there, I agree it is a can of worms, but rather than blaming the player, I was blaming those allowing themselves to be played!
on Jun 01, 2004
yes - well, you have opened the can of worms it seems...

because it is the ladies that the whole game can be blamed on.

yes - hit me with your best shot girls - I confidently make that statement in the knowledge I can back it up!!! Chicks just seem to be attracted to the challenge of changing the jerk into the nice guy!!!

it doesn't work girls... just go for the nice guys to start of with!!!

BAM!!!
on Jun 01, 2004
Ohhh nooooo, it's all the ladies fault????? I agree with you, the majority is the women, they ask for it, they enjoy it even, and they do see it as some sort of challenge! Men encourage it though, and enjoy it, so they play the game to, no doubt about it, both are guilty, no one is innocent in game playing! Good advice though....just stick with the nice guys, leave the bad ones to play with themselves, hehe!
on Jun 02, 2004
Amen sister!

You don't need to hear me ramble about the f**king game. ARGH!

what is it with women and men that treat them badly?

If only I could answer this one! Probably because deep down we all feel lost and are told to believe that a man is the answer to all our problems. And regardless of how much we fight against it (I HATE this sentiment completely) I think there might be a little girl inside day dreaming about knights in shining armour, telling us that it's the way forward. Now, we just need someone to help us silence the little s**t!

Hope you don't miss Kermit too much!

Suz
on Jun 02, 2004
I'll miss Sally so much while I'm away... And she did something tonight that's gonna make me miss her even more.

I don't like feeling like this though.

I feel vulnerable...

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm... Oh and in the pursuit of making you bloggers think that Sally is into wierdos, I will post my next comment...

I sniff snails.

hehehe...

Cheers sal, will miss you like a fuker... fuker.
on Jun 02, 2004
it doesn't work girls... just go for the nice guys to start of with!!!


if all us girls went for the nice guys, Muggaz, wouldn't you be awfully lonely?
on Jun 02, 2004
Hehe Suz, yeh we all want our fairytale I think, you kind of inspired this, so thank you! Yeah we are told that we need men far to much, and we put way to much on it! Thanks for the comment!

Awww Kermit, you're so lovely! You don't like feeling like this huh, I can't help being so great! Haha! I do like weirdos, I like you don't I, I'm sure people are thinking you're strange, so well done you snail sniffer!

Will miss you to fuker!
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