I have never had a one night stand. I've had the opportunity to do it. Many times, and I have never wished to engage in such activities. Especially when I was going through college and you was out every weekend, and it was in your face all the time. The meat market feel of a night club. Like everyone was just eyeing up their next conquest, and didn't really have much else in mind. I always went out to have a good time. To get my ass on the dance floor, and shake it, and forget all the stress of the week gone by. It worked too. You can't beat a good dance. There would always be one guy though that would be stood off to the side, watching you. Eyes popping out of his head, tongue hanging out, like they'd never seen a chick before. They would always be having a drink, to build their confidence. Why is it men always think they can dance when they've had a drink? Don't they realise they are ten times worse? Something that I didn't realise was possible.

Anyway, you are happily shaking it on the dance floor. Maybe in a slightly sexy manner, which would explain why slimey men just can't keep their eyes off you. So eventually they build the confidence to come and dance with you. Usually from behind. What the hell is that about? Like you really want to feel some stranger groping your ass! How is that logical in mens minds? Yer, I don't know this girl, but by feeling her arse, she might just like me! I don't think so! It works on some chicks though, it must do, or these men wouldn't continue to do it. Even men aren't that stupid! So they start dancing with you. Maybe whispering in your ear, as they do. They could be whispering anything in your ear, it isn't like you can hear a word they say. So you reach a point where you somehow feel some connection with this person. Maybe they are just really damn sexy, and you can't resist them! So you might kiss them, and they might cop a feel. And they say romance is dead!

In that situation where do you reach the point where you think, I would like to have sex with this person? I just don't see what would make that decision click for you. The first thing that would go through my head is if this person can do this with me, they could do it with anyone, which means you don't really know what they've got. Which isn't really a situation I would like to put myself in. Then there is the comfort levels. Why would you want to do something so intimate with someone that you don't even know? Probably in a weeks time you won't even remember their name. Will you be a better person for doing that? I highly doubt it. I know that sometimes people get caught up in the moment, and they are overtaken with passion. I guess, I wouldn't really know how the chemistry of that situaton works. Even though there are no feelings there. How can that be a worthwhile feeling, when you strip it of everything love making should be about.

Isn't it better with someone you care about? Sure, we have these sexual urges, and we all sometimes feel a little rampant. That's human nature, but surely the answer isn't sleeping with the first person that comes along. Doesn't it add to it if it is with someone you care about? I am not even saying you should be madly in love, though it would be nice. I am just saying, maybe it would be nice if it was someone you had feelings for, and who you wouldn't wake up wondering what the hell you did. I have friends who have put themselves in really dangerous situations, and for what? They have gone back to peoples houses, and invited people back to theirs. People who they don't know, who could be anyone, and for what? To complete the most intimate act of all with them. Sex with a stranger. Sounds so appealing, doesn't it?

Now I guess this is another subject that I don't really know the reasoning about, because I have never had a one night stand. So I can't really comment on what makes these people tick, and why they do it. I have seen friends who have done it, and some feel great about it. One night of fun, with someone. It sets them up for a great week. Mostly though, the next day they are gutted, and have no idea why they did such a thing. They feel cheap, and used. I suppose I can see why. These people are the same people that will go out and do it the next weekend to though, so my sympathy for them isn't that strong. I guess we are all wired differently though. I guess some people can just leave their morals at the door and live life for the moment. Rather than worrying about what they are doing. I also imagine there is alot of enjoyment to be had the world of one night stands. Fortunately I will never have that knowledge!