I'm in love with someone I haven't even met yet....
I love them with all my heart.
I ache to be with them.
They ache to be with me.
Why?
When you meet someone for the first time, there are many thoughts rushing through your head. We usually make up our minds about people within seconds, Judging on the clothes they are wearing, how they carry themselves, their social status. All kinds of judgements run through our heads in them initial few seconds. Now talking specifically love interests. It is fun getting to know someone. Someone that is new and exciting, it's a learning process. Now sometimes it can be a disappointment, you learn things you don't like, or things that even make you not want to learn anymore. However on occasions, you meet people where everything just clicks into place. All their little quirks arouse your interest. You notice that in their presence there is a constant smile on your face. You want to learn more and more about them. Not just the normal stuff, but how they think, what they think about. Getting to know new people is good for you, because it opens you up to new ways of thinking, to new challenges, to different places and people. Change can be good. Usually with new people there is a nervous factor. Because not only are you getting to know them, but they are getting to know you. You are faced with exactly the same challenges. Will you interest them? Will they like you? Will they like you, just for you? What is even rarer than meeting someone who interests you, is someone with a mutual interest. I think that is when you call it a connection. These connections are rare? I bet many of you can count on one hand the people that have touched your lives that have truely connected with you. However, I think a connection is built over time. Which leads us to the other side of the coin.
Relationships are built over time. No one walks in and has an instant connection with someone. Like anything else, the best things take hard work. It isn't always easy, because believe it or not, no one is perfect. When meeting someone there will be parts of them that completely infuriate you. Some people are worth it though. So after the initial meeting, and the initial getting to know someone stage. You could say some of the excitment disappears. Because, well, you know everything there is to know, don't you? One thing I have learnt over time is, people are capable of surprising you, you will never learn all there is to know about one person, humans always have the ability to shock you, to change, to be not what you presume. This is usually the stage where you need to put some effort in. You have met someone you like, who you know pretty well. Now you enter the comfort zone. Where you have a level of trust, a level of understanding, and you get to know each other even better. You know what to expect of each other. You can often judge what they will think about things. Now I know this stage sounds pretty boring. I have to say I quite like this part. Feeling comfortable with someone. Understanding them. Trusting them. Having someone, an equal, who you care about. Oh yes, I should probably mention the whole caring thing. No matter how hard you try, once you invest time and effort in someone, and you enjoy the rewards you begin to start caring about them. It's a bit like selling your soul to the devil, except less evil. Unless they hurt you, and inevitably you will get hurt. That's not me being cynical. Well maybe it is a little. But as I said before, no one is perfect. We all make mistakes, and to strengthen a bond, it does need to be tested.
There is a man out there, that I will go through all these processes with. I will meet him, I might not like him at first, or I might judge him, but I will slowly start to get to know him. It won't be immediately noticable to me that, this person is special. I will just start to get to know them, and what I will learn, I will like. I will start to spend more and more time with him. As time goes on, I will notice things about him, that are extremely attractive. I will question myself, on how I didn't notice these things in the first place. He will make me laugh. Not that he will be a clown. He will be observant, and notice things, and we will laugh together about them. He will be intelligent. He will challenge me. Every day. In every way. He won't roll over for me. If I'm wrong he will tell me. He will care about me. I will know that I can rely on him. If I need anything, he will be there for me without question. He will understand me. He will be proud. He will work hard. He will want to achieve things. He will allow me to lead my own life. As I will allow him to lead his. He won't judge me. He will be exciting. New things will intrigue him. He will have his own opinions, and he will fight for them. He will believe in things. He will be thoughtful. He will be mine. And I will be his. And the most important thing, he will love me, just the way I am.
I'm in love with someone I haven't even met yet....
There is something about Christmas that makes you want to love, to have someone to hold, and someone to share these special times with. Here's hoping you have someone to hold at night.
Merry Christmas All xxxxx