"Conversation should be pleasant without scurrility, witty without affectation, free without indecency, learned without conceitedness, novel without falsehood."
or not...
Published on September 16, 2004 By Sally jacobs In Home & Family
I had sex education at school ,and it was generally a class I didn't take much notice of. It wasn't like I would have an exam in it, or be tested. So away from the daily grind of Maths and English, it was somewhat of a lighthearted lesson, and that's how it should be dealt with. We also treated it in a juvenile way. Because sex is seen as such a taboo subject, and one that shouldn't be discussed, we generally don't. Especially at that awkward school age. Even the teachers were uncomfortable. You could tell. So how did they get passed this? With facts and figures, and lots of information, and films, that made no sense to us, that we could not relate to our normal lives. What good is that for anyone?

The government has done a good job, in realising that kids do need to be taught about sex education, and how important it is, but could they really ignore stats like this;

Teenage pregnancy facts
90,000 teenage pregnancies in England each year
Of these 7,700 are under 16
2,200 of these are aged 14 or under
Half of under-16s do not use contraception the first time they have sex

People should be aware of teenage pregnancy, and how to prevent it. They should also put more emphasis on the diseases they can get, and how to be safe. They should also make it more personal too. Kids can't relate to all these stats, and put them in the context of their real life, it isn't like that. When they are caught up in the moment, where emotion is high, do you think they are going to run all them stats through their head, and say, oh you know what this is actually a bad idea. NO. Sex educations needs to be taught so kids can relate it to the situation, so they can be comfortable with it. Most teenagers have sex, because they think they shouldn't. It's what kids do. They also think it's to be expected. The media talks like all kids are having sex, like it is to be expected. They look at them being safe while doing it. Which is a good way to be, but shouldn't we also be discouraging them from doing it at all, at such a young age. That it isn't cool to have a reputation as a slag. That sleeping with people won't get you very far, and can be in some cases a life altering thing.

Also I feel the boys get little attention. Where is the information and support for teenage fathers? When does help for them come into play. Is it because they are not expected to be Fathers, because they are just boys. That they can get off scot free, and carry on living their lives. Boys need just as much support and information. They need to learn the consequences too. I think sex education is failing our children, and some drastic changes need to be made.

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on Sep 16, 2004
Did you ever have schools with a certain reputation - you know gangs at one school, drugs at another, smoking at another -- my school was the teen pregnancy school (yeah we has the smoking and marajuana) but there were that many girls who were pregnant - whether they lost it, aborted it or had it was irrelevant (not irrelevant but yeah) -- Even in grade 8. There's a girl I knew in grade 9 who has 2 kid. Three people were pregnant in senior year - 2 of them were pregnant at the formal (our formal was 2 days before graduation)
Since leaving school I can probably name on my hands the number of girls in my senior class (out of like 50 I guess) who DON"T have children.
There's more from earlier classes -- I know girls my age with 2 or more children - who had their first at 14, 15, 16 -- my best friend had her first at 18 and her second at 20 -- I myself was 20 when I had Elana - I know a girl with twins
And I know a guy with 3 children by 2 different women (or is it 3?) - irrelevance

AND -- my school was the pioneer in the Baby think it Over program Link for Brisbane (possibly even Qld) -- it's a simulated baby -- the first 3 we had (african-american girl, asian boy, caucasian boy) would just cry at random intervals and you had to put a key in its back and it would stop.
The new ones are called Real Baby -- they have a floppy neck (for shaken baby syndrome) they cry for a reason - you have to remove the nappy, put a bottle in its mouth or hold it to your chest to simulate breastfeeding if thats what you choose or just comfort it depending on the cry -- it will also coo and giggle when happy.

There's also a heroin addicted baby (caucasian girl) - thats much smaller then the others and has a twisted face and a very loud shrill cry and it won't stop (it has no key it's just a demo baby) it cries for about 30seconds I think -- it breaks your heart to hear that cry.

Girls who did homeec and IFC were offfered first go at taking these babies home for the weekend - but it gradually became anyone - boys and girls - most in grade 10 & 11

I don't know how much prevention the program has done since I left in 2000 (they had 4 babies then (plus the heroin baby) and now I think they have 10 or so

Also - I think it was two years ago now - they got an empathy belly -- the girls (and guys) have to wear it for about an hour and try and do things -- simulating the weight gain and awkwardness of pregnancy Link
on Sep 16, 2004
SALLY

I just found an article on the web which is a transcript of A current Affair - Link I think this was written in 98 or 99 -- maybe 97 - I know those names but I can't place the year they were in - Tanya McKenna was my IFC teacher for two years -- she's probably the best teacher on the planet and she's a Christian - and she's a good one - she's the nicest person ever.

Virtual babies
Reporter: Emma Alberici

Juliette Apps: This is me two or three weeks before I gave birth.
Emma Alberici: How old were you there?
Juliette: I was 16.
Alberici: Over the last three years while her friends have been going to night clubs , drinking, smoking and sleeping in, Juliette Apps has been at home with her son Jack.
Juliette: It was a pure accident I was using all the right contraception and it just didn't work so, yeah, you know, I guess the only way I could have prevented Jack was by not having sex at all.
Teacher: So what we're looking at today is the arrival of the newborn.
Alberici: The subject of teenage pregnancy is a hot topic in classrooms throughout Australia. Statistics tell us one in four sexually active teenage girls will be pregnant by the time they're 18.
Juliette: You can't get up in the morning and have a shower and do your makeup and do your hair, 'cause there's no time. You've got someone else to deal with.
Alberici: The Year 11 girls at Elderslie High School in Sydney are the same age Juliette was when she became pregnant.
Jackson Apps: When are we getting out of here?
Juliette: See, he's bored already.
Alberici: And in case this lesson isn't getting through, the school has gone one step further by giving students a taste of motherhood. Well almost.
Susan Fraser will play mum to this lifelike doll for the next three days and nights taking her baby everywhere she goes, also weighed down with a capsule and nappy bag.
Steve Pratt: My wife Annette and I are youth workers and we had Laura and Jesia, our twins, first. And a lot of the girls were saying, 'we'd love to have a baby'. And no matter how much we told them, we couldn't give them the experience, and experience speaks far louder than any words.
Alberici: Steve Pratt brought the 'Baby Think it Over' program out from America last year and, so far, has sold 230 of the dolls to Australian schools. They are the same size as a newborn and cry just as much. Megan Cootes was ready to give hers back after just one night.
Megan: Do you have to cry at this time of the morning.
Alberici: To stop the baby crying, the carer must insert a key into its back and keep pressing on it for up to 35 minutes -- that's about how long it takes to feed a real baby. And there's no leaving it with mum or a friend -- the key is attached to the student's arm like a hospital band and can't be removed. The dolls can be programmed to be anything from little angels to little terrors.
Megan: It woke me up at twenty to one and then again at quarter past two. I didn't think it'd go that early. And then again at four o'clock and six o'clock.
Alberici: The second night was just as bad and there was no sympathy from her dad, who's experienced the real thing.
Megans Dad: Just to think how lucky you are you didn't have to get up and heat a bottle or change a nappy.
Susan Fraser: It was harder than what I expected it to be because I didn't realise how much it would cry through the night.
Alberici: How many times?
Susan: Five times during the night and each time it cried for 25 to 35 minutes.
Tanya McKenna: Notice on her face she's actually got a little frown so she's really in pain at this stage.
Alberici: Tanya McKenna is the Year 11 teacher at Ipswich State high School in Queensland. Here students are also taught the effect drug taking during pregnancy has on a baby.
Tanya: If just one mum who is pregnant and using drugs at the moment hears about this and decides to stop using whatever drug it is then our students have really achieved something useful.
Alberici: As part of their curriculum, Tammy Schmidt and Tammy Jackwitz are taking the baby into the community to spread the message.
Student: See she shakes and tremors. She's got a high-pitched scream and tremors just like cocaine. This is actually a cocaine dependent baby; many different drugs have different effects on the baby.
Student: And then it's got the symptoms after the baby's born, the withdrawal symptoms it goes through it can last until their teens that it's going to have these withdrawals.
Alberici: Unlike the other dolls that stop crying as soon as you insert the key, the drug dependent babies cry non-stop for about a minute before you can settle them down.
Back in Sydney, Susan and Megan's three days of motherhood is up. They're handing their babies back. A computer will show if the simulated infant has been neglected or abused -- hit, shaken or turned onto its stomach. These girls have been the perfect parents but they're in no hurry to play that role in real life.
Susan: I think it's very silly if you've become pregnant at a young age. Even just by having this, it changed my whole weekend life totally, so imagine what it would do over a whole year.
Steve Pratt: This basically just shows them that a baby's needs are unpredictable and need to be met properly, that it takes time and effort and will affect their social life.
Alberici6: What would your advice be to other teenagers thinking about having a baby?
Megan Coote: Don't.