To be human, means that we have alot of negative aspects of out personality to deal with, along with the good stuff. We are not perfect. Perfection is in the eye of the beholder anyway, well that's beauty but same difference. What is perfect to me, might not be perfect to you. For example I was discussing my perfect date with my friend. Her pefect date, was all romance and roses, which would just make me want to vomit, and sneeze. My perfect date, was going to watch a football match and then for a nice meal. Ha and I wonder why I don't have a boyfriend. Anyway off topic. Perfection is something we can only measure ourselves. Something that we rarely reach. Something we set in our sights to reach. None of us our perfect. I hate to break it to you, but you're not. Close maybe, but not quite. Where would the fun be if we were all perfect?
So now that we know we aren't perfect, it leaves us open to accept some of our faults. What is a fault to some people might not be a fault to others. There are somethings that everyone sees as faults, but how much is up to them. This blog is about one of them human qualities we just don't seem to be able to shake, and we are guilty of it to some level. Jealousy. The green eyed monstor. I hate jealousy with a passion. I hate to feel jealous. I think it is a most unattractive quality, that turns the nicest of people into psychotic monstors. It seems to take people over so they can't think straight, so their jealousy is all you can see about them. Now the unattractiveness of jealousy I find mostly in myself. Though I don't find it that attractive in other people either, but more on that later.
I have friends that attempt to make their partners jealous, as a way of reassuring themselves their partner cares. They see it as some kind of victory if their partner becomes jealous. Does that sound healthy to anyone else? I mean HELLO....we aren't cavemen anymore, there is that little thing called conversation. Is it totally beyond us to ask about feelings. I am not stupid, as I mentioned at the start of this, it is human nature, it may not make sense, and when thought about it may even be considered to be unreasonable, but that's the way we are. Actions speak louder than words, I am guessing that is the theory on it?
To me if someone gets jealous, slightly jealous, it is kind of sweet. There is a point that is becomes ugly though. There is a point where I think if you are going to be like that, I'd rather not have you in my life. I'm not just talking partners here. This is all kinds of jealousy. People jealous of the way you are, how well you do at work. I think it is childish and pathetic. We can't help the way we feel, we can however help the way we react to it. We do not have to be a slave to our inner most thoughts. We can feel things, but still not let our heart rule our head. I am a fine one to talk, because my heart rules my head the most of the time there are just things that you have to contol, and in my opinion jealousy is one of them.
We live in a world that is based on competition. Who achieves more, who is better at what. This just breeds jealousy. People feel inferior. People are jealous of those that are more intelligent, who are higher in society, who are better looking. It can breed ugly behaviour too, as I mentioned before. It's because we are always wanting to achieve better things, but there seems to be someone always that bit ahead of us. Someone who we want to be like, someone we aim to be. Then jealousy takes over.
I'm human too. I feel jealous at times. I don't like it, and I try and contol it, but sometimes you just can't help it. I do try and hide my jealousy though. If I feel it, I can outwardly appear ok with things. I don't think this is a great way to be either, because it can eat you up. Things need to be done in moderation. If you said you never feel jealousy, ever, I would question that. Everyone can feel it, it is how you deal with it. If it makes you want to be better, and improve yourself good. If it eats you up, and consumes you, remember it won't get you anywhere, it will just make you appear to be ugly, and I know you're not.