"Conversation should be pleasant without scurrility, witty without affectation, free without indecency, learned without conceitedness, novel without falsehood."
Published on September 12, 2004 By Sally jacobs In Just Hanging Out
You're having a bad day. A very bad day. You woke up this morning feeling happy. You hopped out of bed, and then it started. You hit your foot getting out of bed, as you're still in half asleep mode. There was no toothpaste. You spill your breakfast down your clean shirt. You argue with your partner before you leave the house. You miss your bus. You are late for work. You have more work that you can cope with. You spend hours on a project, and find out you have to completely re-do it, as it's not up to standard. It's your kids school play. You miss it. Working late. You get caught in the rain on the way home. You get home eventually. Tired, cold and wet. Your kid and partner aren't speaking to you. As I said a bad day.

Throughout the day, you have passed your bad mood onto everyone. You took out having no toothpaste on your partner. You shouted at your kid for making you spill your breakfast. You shout at an old lady who makes you miss her bus. You shout at your assistant, because you can't handle your work. You shout at the store assistant at lunchtime, because you have a project to re-do, and the queue is taking to long. Everyone you come into contact with, you pass on a bit of your bad mood.

That's the way the world works. If you're nice, people are generally are nice back. There are the odd exceptions of course. When aren't they? However for the most part, good behaviour breeds good behaviour. Same goes with bad. Bad moods are catching, they can easily rub off on other people. Someone can be really happy, then they encounter a misery, and like magic, they are also miserable. Then they take it out on someone, and so on, and so on, Until BANG, we have a miserable world!

Of course that won't be the case, but I think this concept should be considered in the bigger picture. Bad behaviour breeds bad behaviour. World leaders should remember that. Everyone should remember that. So remember these simple words....

Treat others, as you would like to be treated yourself.

You won't go far wrong with that

Comments
on Sep 12, 2004

It's funny that you should post this today....I just had the same conversation with Dave last night.  He was in a carppy mood all day yesterday, and I unfortunately kept catching the brunt of his grumpiness.  I finally had had enough, and told him that I didn;t know what got up his butt, but would he kindly remove it before he spoke to or interacted with me again.....anyway, he apologized, and said that I hadn't done anything wrong, I was just there.  I'm the closest person he has, and it's easy to lash out at me. 

I try not to rise to the occasion, if you know what I mean.  I try to stay out of the cycle of grumpiness.  If I can be nice to someone who's being crabby, then perhaps I can break the circle instead of passing it on to someone else.

Easy to say...bloody hard to do sometimes.

What brought this article on?  Just curious.

on Sep 12, 2004
I finally had had enough, and told him that I didn;t know what got up his butt, but would he kindly remove it before he spoke to or interacted with me again


Hehe, I love how fiesty you are!

I'm the closest person he has, and it's easy to lash out at me.


It's funny how we do that isn't it. Able to hurt those that are closest to us. Maybe because we know they will understand alot better.

If I can be nice to someone who's being crabby, then perhaps I can break the circle instead of passing it on to someone else.


It's a good way to be, but as you said, it can be very difficult. i find I just want to shake them!

What brought this article on? Just curious.


Two reasons. I have being in a crabby moods for days, and I have tried my hardest to pass it on. Especially to my poor sister, who has done her best to ignore it, and remain nice. Now that I am finally over my crabiness, I'm glad she just ignored me. Also, on my other Bush thread, I am seeing people fighting for what they believe in, but doing it by being rude to other people. I don't see how they think they can be taken seriously, when they can't even voice an opinion in a reasonable manner. That's not the way to be. Anyway, that's what inspired this. Thanks for the comment xxx
on Sep 13, 2004
So true. I was in a foul mood yesterday and pissed Poll off and then I went out and met people who were nice to me, and ended up going out and having a really good time.

And I apologise for that Bush thread again!

Hope everything's good with you now.

Dyl xx
on Sep 14, 2004
I personally think that most people are to quick to get angry and upset about something. I know it is hard to help the onsite of a bad mood, but most things that we worry about are way to miniscual in the bigger picture. It is easier for us to get pissed off at something than to build a bridge and do a break dance on the other side

Bird crapped on your shirt - better than an AK47 bullet
Too much work - at least your getting more than 1 dollar per hour
No toothpaste - be glad you have teeth, buy a pack of chewy
Stuck in traffic - at least you dont have to worry about your car running over a land mine

Obviously there are some larger issues in life that can seriously get on our nerves, and for those i dont have little remedeal analogies

Look on the bright side and never take advantage of the relatively luxurious life you live. A lot of people get annoyed at me when i say this, and say that its human to get angry at such things, but to them i say

build a bridge and do a break dance on the other side


hmm quoting the same post i am writing...weird

on Sep 14, 2004
And I apologise for that Bush thread again!


Dyl hunny don't worry. You're passionate and that is what I love about you

It is easier for us to get pissed off at something than to build a bridge and do a break dance on the other side


People generally like to find the easy way out.

hmm quoting the same post i am writing...weird


Hehe, well if we're honest you're just weird full stop huh!