I like conflict. In friendships, relationships. I like a bit of conflict. Now it takes alot for me to admit that. It's not something I am proud of, but it is true. If a friendship is going nicely, and just passing by, I get the need to cause a little conflict. I don't know if it is my way of testing the friendship, or injecting some excitement. It is not something I do intentionally, I just get itchy feet, and feel the need to cause a problem. Maybe it is because I never deal with problems head on. Someone may annoy me, but I let it go, they annoy me again, and still I let it go. Then things are going nicely with them, but all them times they annoyed me are still in my head, and I can't shake them, so I end up arguing over nothing. Maybe that is what it is.
Some people need spice in their relationship. They need that fiery nature to it. Everyone is different. We fall in love with different people for a reason. Our relationships are different for a reason. Now I'm watching a soap at the moment, I know I'm sad but hear me out. There is this couple in it, who have the most fiery relationship. The lady of the relationship is especially quick tempered. Always over reacting to things. Blowing things out of proportion. Throwing things at her fellas head, more to the point. He can handle himself, but you almost feel sorry for him, having to put up with that. Recently, the lady is trying to redeem herself, and become a better person, due to alot of soap trivia I won't bore you with. Since she has turned over her new leaf, he has become uninterested in her. As a nice girl, she just doesn't do it for him. Her agreeing with everything he says, not reacting to things, he hates it. At first look you would think he should be pleased that she has lost that fiery nature, that you always thought he just put up with, because of her good points. It appears that, that fiery nature was part of the attraction though, and a huge part.
He fell in love with her for a reason, and it was largely due to the relationship not being smooth sailing. Some people thrive in that arguing, and then the feeling of making up. To just get along nicely all the time doesn't do it for some people. They get bored, stuck in a rut. I'm not saying the fiery type of relationship is entirely healthy, but it works for some people. I can understand it, I think I am one of these fiery types. The arguing isn't always fun, though on occasion, it can have an element of fun, but the making up rocks. I'm hoping that I will one day grow up, and just want a nice happy argument free relationship, until then, let the fiery times commence!