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Published on August 9, 2004 By Sally jacobs In Home & Family
I've had a good weekend. It's being pretty quiet, and I've enjoyed it. The heat is still really bad though. Making it awful to sleep. I'm waking up really early, but it's nice. To be awake when everyone else is sleeping. It's raining here at the moment, but still really warm. It's kind of nice to just walk in the rain, let it hit against your skin and for that second you're just a little bit cooler. It's nice walking in the rain. I don't know what it is, but I can just sit and watch it for ages. So powerful, but yet not. I like it. The sun is nice, just not as beautiful and mysterious. As I said my weekend was pretty quiet until Sunday evening, when I got a phonecall from my best friend in floods of tears. Me and her have a funny relationship. We have known each other for a very long time, and we've had our ups and downs, like any friendship does. I know without a doubt that she will be there for me. No matter what time of the day and night she needs me I will be there, and it works the other way too. So she rang, and I went straight around to make sure she was ok.

We are very different, we always have been. When we first met we kind of tolerated each other, as we were in the same class, and had the same friends. We did build up a friendship though. In some ways we are very different. She lives for the moment, is very loud and out going, trusts everyone, is very funny, and a totally good hearted chick. I'm more quiet (well in comparison to her, hard to believe huh?), I don't trust as easily, and I'm more of a thinker. We have very different opinions on things, that have caused us many problems in the past. I think we compliment each other though. Our qualities go together, and we get on really well. I view her as just another member of my family.

Her Uncle had a heart attack, and her boyfriend was being funny with her. Hence the phonecall, and my going round, as the cheering up brigade. Her uncle will be fine, will just take time. As I'm sure her boyfriend will be. He's just being, well, a man, hehe! The only way I know to make people feel better is to make them laugh. So I went round and listened to her, and offered words of support, and then I did some clowning around, and made her smile. I hate seeing people I love hurt. I wish I could just take it away from them, and make it all better. If only we had a magic wand huh? We got to talking about our younger days. heard me like I'm really old. When we at school, and all the things we got upto. Some of it is so embarrassing! I would repeat some of these stories, but I'm hopeless at re-telling such things, and if you wasn't there, it probably won't be that funny! Plus, it is very embarrassing, hehe! It was nice to remember these things though. All the trouble we got into. The more things we got away with. It was all good fun. I'm smiling just thinking about it all.

When we was sixteen we went through the most difficult time of our friendship. As I said before we have very different views on things. We went our separate ways when we were sixteen. Different friends, different situations. She started going out drinking all the time. I was more of the nerdy one. Went to college, and was alot more quiet. She did so many things I didn't agree with. The biggest one was her affair with a married man. She used to babysit for a friend of her Mums. They were all good friends, and she had an affair with the Father of the children. No matter how much I tried to understand. I couldn't I thought it was the lowest of the low. I couldn't hide my feelings on it from her. We didn't speak for a while. Until the affair ended. She regrets it more than anything. I would never have stopped being friends with her because of that, I'll support her through anything. She just found it easier not to see me during that time, because deep down I think she knew I was right. I also realised she had to make these mistakes for herself.

Friends are very important to me. I don't have many, but the ones I do have, I treat as family. I know they will always be there for me no matter what. They will laugh at the past with me, and be there in the future with me. I know having them makes things alot easier. Someone to hold your hand through these times. To give you a reassuring hug when you feel the world is ending. For them words of support. Friends are priceless. Through the good and the bad, they will be there for you.


Subject: A simple friend vs A real friend


A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party.
A real friend comes early to help you cook and stays late to help you clean.

A simple friend hates it when you call after they have gone to bed.
A real friend asks you why you took so long to call.

A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your problems.
A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.

A simple friend wonders about your romantic history.
A real friend could blackmail you with it.

A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest.
A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps themselves.

A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when you HAVE an argument.
A real friend calls you after you had a fight.

A simple friend expects you to always be there for them.
A real friend expects to always be there for you!

Just as I wrote this, she sent me this in an e-mail, nice huh!

Comments
on Aug 09, 2004
Sal do you have msn/icq ??

Friends are very important to me. I don't have many, but the ones I do have, I treat as family. I know they will always be there for me no matter what. They will laugh at the past with me, and be there in the future with me. I know having them makes things alot easier. Someone to hold your hand through these times. To give you a reassuring hug when you feel the world is ending. For them words of support. Friends are priceless. Through the good and the bad, they will be there for you.


Never has a truer or wiser word been said (in the last few minutes )
on Aug 09, 2004
Yeah hunny, my id is Sally_jacobs_g@msn.com

Never has a truer or wiser word been said (in the last few minutes )


Hehe...yes I am a wise lady!
on Aug 09, 2004
she sounds like a really wonderful friend sal. And the fact you've been apart and ended up back together again show there's something special there. Hang on to her!! She's obviously quite a talented writer too so maybe you're not so different huh?

It's funny you'd write this as I was just thinking about my friends. I think the distance has given me perspective, and realising that my friends in New York are people I've shared a lot with, and love deeply, but there is one friend in a different state I've shared everything with and have let get too far away from me. And not just physically. So thankyou for writing this, you've helped me to see him in a different light, and I think I should try to appreciate him more, and well once I get home I'm gonna make the effort to see him. So thankyou, you don't know how much you help me, you really don't honey!

chat soon !!

Dyl xx
on Aug 09, 2004
Awesome friends rock!

I've found a few in my life that i'd call real friends, but over the last year or so i've met heaps of real friends, which is pretty superb seeing as though I was beginning to think that the world was full of 'average' people.

Thanks for inspiring me to call up a few of my old 'real' friends

(and if you don't mind... i'll add you to my MSN as well )
on Aug 09, 2004
you don't know how much you help me, you really don't honey!


Ditto sweety. I read that article as you was replying to this one, and I left you a comment along them lines. you and Holden belong together

Thanks for inspiring me to call up a few of my old 'real' friends


Not a problem! Friends are often taken for granted and they shouldn't be!

Of course you can add me
on Aug 09, 2004
awww that was so CUTE! My best friend Tyler and I just had a fight not too long ago. This article just made me appreciate him even more! That was a nice little something to read.....
on Aug 09, 2004
It really makes you think who your "real" friends are.....

I think I will call them!