If I'm honest I have to say I'm a bit of a Daddies girl. I love my Dad. The only man that will never let me down right? My Dad is the most laid back guy I know. I suppose living with four women he has had to be. He avoids arguments at all costs. He does as he's told, and it's all in aid of an easy life. My Dad became my Mums pet a long time ago. She says jump, and he says, "how high?" Maybe I'm exaggerating slightly, but only slightly. At the moment my Parents are decorating the house, an experience, I am hiding from, rather than embracing, because before the last bit of decorating is completed, there will be a murder committed in my family. It's like war. Grrr.....and I was listening to my Mum basically boss my Dad about, do this, do that, you're not doing it right. She sounds awful, and I always feel to defend him. Sometimes I do. The scary thing is, I think he quite likes it. My Dad likes being under the thumb. He likes my Mums mothering way towards him, that having to make decisions about things is taken away from him. You see he is clever. Because he will roll over for so long, and let my Mum think she is getting her own way, but when it comes to things that really matter, or he is really bothered about. Boy can he put his foot down. He can get his own way, but he pays the price by putting up with the rest of the crap that goes with it.
I was an avid watcher of Richard and Judy on This Morning. You will probably have no idea who I'm talking about. Married couple who did a morning TV show, Richard is like an old woman, who has an opinion on absolutely everything, and rarely lets Judy speak, but how I loved them. Anyway, on their show once, was some guy, and he said in a wife, men wanted the three M's. Which are a Mother, a Mistress, and a Mrs. Is this correct boys? Because from what I have seen and come across it appears to be. Someone to look after them, someone to be dirty with, and someone to be their partner. Someone to love them. I'm not saying women don't want certain things too, but it appears to be so more obvious with men.
It seems to start to happen when they get married. Most single young guys I come across, say they will never be tied down to a woman, and she will never take his freedom, but when that marriage happens, things seem to change. I'm sure this is not the case for all married couples, but the majority of the people I know who are married it is the case. Is it because women are supposedly the homemakers, so all household decisions generally fall to them. That many of the decisions when it comes to kids, go down to them. Somehow the man becomes an extra child huh.
I see myself act like this with my Dad, be bossy, and a general pain. I just hope I don't turn into my Mum, she can be scary! I like men that are challenging. That will say no to me, and aren't so easy. If I had a bloke that was just lovely, and nice, I'd walk all over him. I know that, and I'd hate myself for it, but if he let me do it I would. Why is we do that? I really don't understand it. Why can't we just appreciate nice men for what they are, nice men. We get the difficult ones, and we only attempt to break them down anyway. Change them, to fit us. Then we marry them, and we become dominating ladies. Hehe, I'm massively generalizing here. Not everyone is like that, but I do see it as a pattern that occurs alot.
Do men find some kind of comfort being under the thumb? Do women like to feel power over men? Am I insane? Answers on a postcard plz...hehe!