My parents were blessed with three very different daughters. Three daughters that were similar in some ways, but VERY different in others. They loved us all equally that much I can say. How much they liked us is a different story though. Its funny how we get labelled, we all had a label early on, My eldest sister Anne-Louise was named the 'pretty' one. Which to me suggest me and my other sister were seen as the two ugly sisters, but anyway! My next sister was called the 'home-maker', I think she got the worst title personally, but I'll explain that later, and then little me, the baby of the family, what title did I get? I got the 'smart' one, ha! So what lead us to having these titles? I'm not sure if it really had a lot to do with our actual personalities, I'll explain a bit to you about my sisters and you'll see what I mean!
Firstly Anne-Louise, she has always fancied herself as a bit of a rebel, though why is beyond me. She is quite arty, and loves to draw and do stuff like that, but ask her a question on general knowledge or common sense, and she'll have no idea what you're talking about. She lives on her own planet, where she is perfectly happy to be. She hated school, was forever in trouble. She was never short of a boyfriend, and even now she isn't. She was always told she was beautiful, which don't get me wrong, she is, but I don't know, hmmm. Anyway her chosen career? Part time Pole dancer, Full time drug addict.
My next sister Katy, probably the quietest out of the three of us. She's very emotional, avoids arguments, and though she has eight years on me, I still feel the need to protect her. Me and Anne-louise have this quite fiesty sides to us, but Katy doesn't, she's just a sweetheart the majority of the time. Being the middle child, I think she feels slightly ignored sometimes. She kept her head down in school, did averagely well, and never caused my parents any problems, unlike her big sister. So because she was so good and didn't cause problems, she basically got ignored. Not intentionally, my parents attention was just needed in other areas. My sister took care of me loads when I was little, time I'll never forget, and she still does to this day. I asked her the other day, if she thinks she treats me like a 'normal' twenty one year old. She said no, I treat you like you're my baby sister, awww. Her career? Part Time Mid-wife, Full time Mummy to Maddy Mae!
Then there's me! I always had my head in a book, I loved reading with a passion. I'd describe myself as pretty average, not loud, not quiet. I was spoilt, as the youngest, this I know, I pretty much got my own way, and as there was such a huge age gap, my sisters babied me more than beat up on me. I was pretty popular, and I was a good student, I was more of a thinker than anything, and I was forever writing. I don't really have alot to say about me, lol! i guess you can draw your own conclusions! My chosen career? If only I knew, ha!
So my point? Well I have a few. Did me and my sisters become what we really wanted to be? Or did we just live up the the expectations that were set for us? We were kind of told what to expect and what not to! We were given titles to live by, and for the most part we seem to have lived up to them. So were them titles correct, or did we just make it so they were? I suppose it could be measured by just how happy we are in our chosen lives. My eldest sister isn't happy, she's lost control of her life, and is struggling to get it back. Katy is happy being a Mummy, she loves it. Am I happy? Not really. If I knew what I was , and what I was becoming, maybe I would be, but I don't. We were also told, none of us would never get married, and so far this is true to. I can't see it happening to any of us in the near future either!
So it begs the question, were expectaions set for you? And more importantly did you live up to them?