Ahhh to blog or not to blog that it the question. Today started off as such a good day, but for one reason or another it has slowly gone down the toilet, anyway my chosen topic of conversation today, well not my own personal choice of topic, I asked a friend and they made a suggestion and now I'm going to work with it.......dildos....ahh what a nice subject. I'm going to broaden the topic slightly but this is where the discussion originated, from my very own rampant rabbit! It seems even though we are living in a society where everyday women are becoming more equal to men when it comes to sexual pleasure we are expected to be still living in the dark ages, and god forbid that we are able to pleasure ourselves, what it might come to the point where we don't need men for anything (hardly anything!)? Shock, horror! I'm not going to get all feminist, but after reading a bit about this subject, it seems to be the general concensus that women should not discuss this subject, it should be something they shy away from, something they should be ashamed of in fact. Why are we made to feel wrong for owning a dildo?
Times are changing, women are breaking the mould. They no longer want to settle down young and have a family, they want to be career women, they want to be independant, they don't want to rely on a man to provide for them, in any way. Programmes like sex in the city have made it easier for women to fight these stereotypes, it's encouraged women to go out and buy their own rampant rabbit, a clever marketing campaign maybe, but it's worked. Ann Summers is a great shop! On my first visit I have to say I was slightly embarrassed, but why should I feel like that, why should we be made to feel embarrassed about sex? If you are an adult, and you are safe and sensible about what you do, you have sexual needs, like everyone else, then why be embarrassed!
I am happy to admit I own a rampant rabbit, and what a fabulous invention that was! I have very strong viewpoints on sex and marriage. It may seem strange to some people, but it is just me personal opinion on things and by no means do I think everyone should live their life like this. I used to think I didn't believe in sex before marriage, but I don't think this is the case. Because I don't think I really believe in marriage. I believe in the idea behind marriage, and I have nothing against it. That declaration of love between two people how can that be wrong? The way we live today though marriage is beginning to have no meaning to people, it is so easy to get divorced, so easy to walk away from it, that to enter into a marriage with someone is just about the piece of paper, and I don't agree with that. If you are going to do it, it should be because you are prepared to spend the rest of your life with this person, through the bad times, throught the good times, it should be hard work, to make you appreciate the times when things are great. Nothing good comes easy! So I've come to the point where I don't think I need marriage, I don't think I want it, as long as I know that I love somone with all my heart and they feel exactly the same about me, I don't need proof of that, I don't need to declare it to the world, I don't need a marriage certificate, the feeling in my heart will be enough.
However, just because I have this viewpoint and I won't be having sex with random people, just for the fun of it, that does not mean I don't need sexual stimulation, I'm human, and that's where the rampant comes into play. It's not an unusual thing for women of this generation to own, the majority of my female friends, with or without partners own them, and they all swear by them! I have a friend who went to the fab Ann Summers and invested in a rampant, and after using it she phoned all her friends up because she couldn't believe how good it was! It doesn't replace other things though, and it never will. The feelings of love and intimacy, it's just about sexual pleasure and shouldn't be confused with anything else, and it isn't wrong! We still need men, for when the batteries run out, hehe!