Excuse Me Whilst I See My Arse!

Published on August 19, 2006 By Sally jacobs In Life Journals

Be warned folks. This is a bit of a rant. So if you don't wish to read self absorbed waffle, please divert your eyes now, and walk on by!

Okies, I have something to say, and I need to get it off my chest, otherwise I could quite possibly burst. I like it here at JU, alot. I like the people here at JU, alot. That's the reason I am here. I love writing, and I love the nice, kindly folk who grace my blog with their presence. I have blogged here at JU for over two years now. Over that time I have witnessed some wars. People hating each other, having disagreements and whatever else. It is bound to happen. People get passionate here, and you can't always meet people in life who see your point of view, or even understand it, life just doesn't work like that. There will be times you just don't get on with people. Over my time here I have made an effort to like people, to get along with them, and to understand their views. I believe that it is give and take. There are a few people that I just haven't liked, and I have avoided them, and it hasn't really been a problem. I have done my own thing, and for the most part I haven't come across them. There has never been anyone I have really, really, disliked though. Even characters that have made a point of acting in a manner that isn't very friendly, I have managed to find some kind of amusement in them.

That's changed though. I have found someone here I just really don't like. I can't even bare to read one of their articles without wanting to rip my hair out. I feel quite bad about this, because I do try and m ake an effort with people. I understand that some people don't always manage to get their veiws across well in writing, and sometimes it can be easy to be misunderstood. So I have given this person a chance. I just can't be doing with them though. I can't be doing with their poorly written articles that make a point....somewhere....I'm just not quite sure where. I can't be doing with their bad attitude. I can't be doing with the fact they can dish it out to people, but it would appear that they can't take it when it is given back to them. I just don't like this person. That's it. Now this is only a blog site, and in the 'real world' they could be a wonderful person. In fact I am sure they are. I can only judge them on what I see here, and in all honesty they make me want to eat my own fist.

Now the solution to this problem is simple. Don't read their blogs, and don't interact with them. Not so difficult is it? I have never blacklisted anyone from my blog, and I never would. However, I can blacklist myself from other peoples, and that is basically what I have done. There is just one tiny problem. This person, that irritates the hell out of me, has an ability to pick pretty good titles for their blogs. So I see an eye catching title on the tool bar at the side, and I think to myself, oooh that looks interesting, and I click on it without thinking, and BAM there I am. Grrrr! I've even thought to myself that I should give the articles a chance, that maybe just maybe I might actualy find something interesting about them. But no, it's the same things everytime. A one-sided argument, about a subject they obviously know very little about, and as soon as they are questioned, the toys are thrown out of the plan and a temper tantrum is the only outcome of the whole scenario. GRRRRRRRRRR!

I think there has to be a point where you just realise that you can't always like everyone, and personally I think I have done pretty well so far. For the most part, I like and respect almost everyone here. The people who visit my blog, and those who I read and comment too, I think very highly of, and I really like them, so I think one person out of that many isn't really that bad. I have tried to like them, I have tried to give them a chance, and it just isn't happening for me. If I could question this person, and have a debate with them, in an adult manner, it might be a different story, but I can't. This blogger who I am talking about, who I won't name, but I am sure a few of you might have a pretty good idea who it is, I have seen them defended a few times. Now I know people here at JU are generally good hearted and nice people, and feel everyone should have an equal chance, and that is perfectly fine. They should. I have seen a few people comment on this bloggers age though. That maybe this is why they behave in such away. As far as I am aware this person is older than me. I know I don't always behave in the maturist of ways, and I am sure that my age is apparent at times with my views on things. That's fair enough. I think that I am capable of discussing things with people without spitting my dummy out though. Maybe other people should learn to do the same.

Right, I've got that off my chest, and I feel lots better. Thanks for reading folks.

Comments

jennifer1

on Aug 19, 2006

quote ---- That maybe this is why they behave in such away. As far as I am aware this person is older than me. I know I don't always behave in the maturist of ways, and I am sure that my age is apparent at times with my views on things. That's fair enough. ---

personally Sally the articles I have read of yours have not come across as immature - don't put yourself down! Your articles are light and most enjoyable.

quote ---- That's fair enough. I think that I am capable of discussing things with people without spitting my dummy out though. Maybe other people should learn to do the same.
end quote

Well said! We are all guilty of it at one time or another, it pays to stop and take a deep breath and think before we react. Myself and Serenity being an example.

The problem generally is - once the train has left the station it is very hard to put on the brakes...... you know gotta get in the last word and all that

Nothing wrong a with a rant and rave occassionally, you go girl!

crimson

on Aug 19, 2006

There's some bloggers that I disagree with quite frequently, but love to death..... and then there's others that are loved by many, and I can't see the attraction.

I keep my mouth shut 'cuz I don't want to offend those that like 'em so much, but try to keep my distance the same way that you do. Hard though, when you see their names listed on other people's blogs.

Dr Guy

on Aug 19, 2006

JU is a community. As you said. Do you like all of the people in yours?

Avoid the ones you do not like. read the ones you do. I have one as well, that I tried to start reading again, but their arrogance and denial of opposing view points turned me off. So Bascially I do ignore them. It is actually 2, and one has a military rank in their name.

Sally jacobs

on Aug 20, 2006

personally Sally the articles I have read of yours have not come across as immature - don't put yourself down! Your articles are light and most enjoyable.

Thanks chick! That's really nice of you to say, and much appreciated

The problem generally is - once the train has left the station it is very hard to put on the brakes...... you know gotta get in the last word and all that

yep, I can be terrible for that. If I believe I am right, I generally find it difficult to back down!

If you're referring to Gerlyne, Sally, I'll ditto everything you've said here. Her articles are posted from positions of pure ignorance, and any facts presented to contradict that ignorance are met with unbridled hostility and childish tantrums.

Thank god someone agrees LW! I've tried to make an effort, and I just no longer see the point, I just wanted to get this rant out of the way, and now I will continue to ignore it all again, lol!

I keep my mouth shut 'cuz I don't want to offend those that like 'em so much, but try to keep my distance the same way that you do. Hard though, when you see their names listed on other people's blogs.

Aww Nic, I can't imagine you disliking anyone! At the end of the day not everyone is going to get along. That's just the way life goes, and the best thing we can do is rise above it, and get on with it.

I have one as well, that I tried to start reading again, but their arrogance and denial of opposing view points turned me off. So Bascially I do ignore them. It is actually 2, and one has a military rank in their name.

I agree with you Doc, sometimes ignoring things is the best option. Some people just rub you up the wrong way, and it isn't anyones fault. We aren't meant to get along with everyone!

Thanks for all the comment xxx

dynamaso

on Aug 23, 2006

Hah, if I let myself go at those I don't like or disagree with, I think I would have been flamed into ashes ages ago. But I do try and treat the JU community as I treat the community I live in. There are always going to be opinions I disagree with and people whom I don't get on with. Such is life. Ignoring the person behind the pain is the the best way to go.

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