I have a friend who had a baby a while a go. At the time her and her partner were not living together. Even though they were together, and they had a baby together. He lived with a friend, and she had a flat of her own. They were quite happy with this situation, except they had one issue. They couldn't have sex. They found it difficult to have it at his place, because the person he lived with was always about, and the baby was at her house, and in the early days that just didn't feel right to them. So they used to get a babysitter, and go and do it outside. Somewhere dark, and out of the way, usually the woods. I only found out about this, because she came and asked me for a torch, and I enquired what it was for, and she turned a funny shade of bright red, and then divulged all the details. Now I won't go into details here, of course, but the things is.....they live together now, and the baby is much older, and in a room of her own, yet they still get a babysitter every now and then, and go outside, and well...you know . They are getting braver with where they do it, and I think there is a part of my friend that actually hopes someone stumbles across them. They just like having sex outside!

Now, when my friend first told me about this, I was pretty shocked. As I am, of course, a good innocent English girl. I have thought about it quite a bit though, and I do see the attraction. I think a large part of it is the naughtiness factor. That you are doing something new, that you are doing something a little naughty, and it all adds to it. Maybe you reach a point where it is no longer because you have to do it, but because you want to. Then maybe a little further on you reach a point where doing it the good old fashioned way, in your bed, just isn't enough anymore, and you are looking for that bit more excitment, to wet your sexual appetite, and to turn you on a little bit more. My friend shocked me when she said that there was a part of her that hoped they got caught. That suggests to me that they are already taking it to another level, and it makes me wonder where it will stop? Maybe I am thinking along the wrong lines here. Maybe it is just something that is a little exciting, and they do it every now and then to liven things up. I mean that happens in relationships where you sometimes need that injection of excitement to keep things fresh, especially in the bedroom department.

The thing with us humans though is we seem to be in a constant quest to find the next high. We never seem to be satisfied. Which of course is a good thing, it is what keeps us evolving, and finding new things, and makes us what we are. In some areas of our lives we just don't know when to stop. Many things, we enjoy them, and we like them for so long, and then we get bored, sick and tired of them, and we have to do something else, we have to take a step further, and be a little more extreme just to get the same kick out of it. Then we do it again for a little while, getting more pleasure out of it, but eventually enter the same cycle again, where we just aren't getting as satisfied as we were, and then once again the quest starts to wet our appetite once more. It makes you wonder where will it stop. Is it just a slippery slope? Or are we in control of what we do, and we are able to say when enough is enough.

I have to admit that I am probably a bit of a frump when it comes to sex and other things. I believe that is an act that is performed between two people who love each other. Now what they get upto with each other is between them, what goes on behind closed doors and all that (or in some dark woods out of the way). By starting to do this though, will my friend find that she just wants to do more and more things, to stimulate the same high that she currently feels from doing this, and is this something that happens in every sexual relationship? That you reach a point where it just isn't exciting anymore, and therefore you do something else, and then something else, until you reach a point where you wonder how you got there. I don't think it's wrong, at all. I think that people should be exciting and inventive, and use their imaginations. It just makes you wonder where it will all lead. Or maybe that's the exciting part