"Conversation should be pleasant without scurrility, witty without affectation, free without indecency, learned without conceitedness, novel without falsehood."
I have come to a conclusion about myself. It's about me and men. I think I like the kind of bloke that's going to hit me over the head, throw me over his shoulder and take me back to his cave. Where he will then grunt at me, while I look after him, and take care of his every need. Grrr! The thing is, I don't like pretty boys. You know the kind of bloke I'm talking about. The one that spends longer in the bathroom than you do. The kind that dresses better than you do. The type that has to be pulled away from the mirror because he just can't stop looking at how gorgeous he is. The kind that knows he is hot, and uses it to his full advantage. The kind that expects every woman he comes in contact with to fall at his feet, and fall madly in love, even if he does act like a self absorbed jerk. Some chicks just dig that. A dude that looks good. I can see where they are coming from, but it's just not for me!

Confidence is an extremely attractive quality. However, I have found that people who are confident, especially men, generally walk an extremely fine line between confidence and arrogance. Even though I find confidence attractive, arrogance is a huge turn off, and something I really can't stand. I am happy for someone to be confident in how the look, how they are, how they appear. That's great. It's when someone goes around thinking they are better than other people, and just because of the way they look, grrr! These pretty boys need to realise that there is much more to a person that what products they use, and what brand of clothes they wear. People need to have something going on upstairs, inbetween their ears!

Where I live, there is a couple of Universities, which means there are alot of students about the place. The majority of male students are these pretty boys. Now obviously to go to University you need to have at least a bit of something going on (not a great deal!), and I'm not saying all pretty boys are stupid, I'm saying it's what they put importance on! You can spot these pretty boys a mile off. As eye candy goes, I'm not complaining, it's alright to look after all, but they really just don't do it for me. With their spikey hair, that has so much product on you could probably snap pieces off. With the air of arrogance about them, that they know people are looking at them, and they could pretty much pick up any girl they turned their smile on. I don't think so matey! I especially like it when they try and chat you up, and they look at you like you've just come from another planet when you turn them down. Like it's never happened to them before, and there obviously must be something wrong with ME for doing it to them.

I like men who are a bit rough and ready. I think it's great if a man looks after himself, and cares about they way he looks. I think all men should spend a bit of time doing that. I just think there is a line. It's a womans job to prance in front of the mirror for an hour wondering what to wear, and usually deciding on the first one she tried on. It's our job to spend two hours in the bathroom doing our make-up and hair! Not the mans! They should be waiting for us, not fighting for a look in the mirror! Haha...well that's just what I like at least. Pretty boys can stay away from me thanks!

Comments
on Jun 03, 2006
I am with you on this one too. I don't mind if they take some care in how they look but there are those who go to extremes. Such as highlighting their hair or going to the tanning bed. That is just too vain in a man for me. I want a manly man not a metrosexual.
on Jun 03, 2006
thank God for common sense women that see beyond the "good looks" There was a time wehn I thought guys that looked like me, Rugged face, all sharp angles was never going to "get a woman" HA I found out differently.
Spmething about pretty boys that make me want to un pretty them.
on Jun 03, 2006

Hree in the colonies, we call them MetroSexuals.  But pretty boy works as well.

Which leaves me out of it.  Since I was regularly beaten with an ugly stick as a kid.

on Jun 04, 2006
I don't mind if they take some care in how they look but there are those who go to extremes. Such as highlighting their hair or going to the tanning bed. That is just too vain in a man for me. I want a manly man not a metrosexual.


Oh I forgot about the sunbed thing! That really annoys me...I'm with you chick, I like manly men!

There was a time wehn I thought guys that looked like me, Rugged face, all sharp angles was never going to "get a woman" HA I found out differently.Spmething about pretty boys that make me want to un pretty them.


Oh I think the rugged look is extremely sexy! Yes I would love to unpretty a few of them, hehe!

Which leaves me out of it. Since I was regularly beaten with an ugly stick as a kid.


Awww Doc! I'm sure you're lovely, just not a metrosexual (which is a good thing!)

on Jun 04, 2006
As you say, there is nothing wrong with being mindful of one's appearance, and trying to make the best with what you have but there are always those who carry it too far and blur the line between confidence and arrogance. What I can't understand is why a lot of women fall for guys like this. I've seen it time and again and still am no closer to understanding why.

Some have said it is the 'bastard' syndrome (you know, women who are attracted to men who are treat them bad) but I think this is a completely different thing. Do you have any ideas as to why some women go for these types?
on Jun 05, 2006
Some have said it is the 'bastard' syndrome (you know, women who are attracted to men who are treat them bad) but I think this is a completely different thing. Do you have any ideas as to why some women go for these types?


I think the 'bastard' syndrome is something different, as I feel I am guilty of that one. I think that's more to do with thinking we possess magic powers to make someone good. Unfortunately we don't. I think the harsh reality is, some women just judge people on appearance, and can't get passed anything else. It's like a status thing. Look who I'm with. The most good looking man in the room. Well good for you.....I'd love to be a fly on the wall for their conversations...hmm on second thoughts, maybe not!
on Jun 13, 2006
I'm digging this article up from the past...but it's a timeless topic, right?

There are two different types of "pretty boys"...1) the ones who know they're gorgeous; and 2) the ones who don't know they're gorgeous, or at least they don't act like they're God's gift to the earth.

I don't mind the latter type. Not only are they easy on the eyes, but they're humble about it. Humility makes people all the more attractive.

Please don't throw stones at me for this one, but may I say that Hugh Grant possesses that charm? (Let's ignore his personal life which I know nothing about...which my husband tries to inform me of every time I've mentioned the charms of Hugh Grant.) I read an article once that so clearly defined that certain something that is attractive about him. He's extremely handsome, but doesn't seem to notice it himself. George Clooney is another one. And I've known a handful of gorgeous guys in real life who carry their looks very well too.

But yes I've known a bunch of pretty boys who've made themselves ugly by their cockiness alone. They learn to be humble the hard way, maybe later down the road.
on Jun 14, 2006
I think I like the kind of bloke that's going to hit me over the head, throw me over his shoulder and take me back to his cave. Where he will then grunt at me, while I look after him, and take care of his every need


Me want. You come. ;~P

I dig your point. While, I don't fall into the category of prett boy. (Trust me, I don't. ) I am a bit compulsive about my hair. *shrugs* One of those mysteries...

~L
on Jun 14, 2006
Hehe, when i first read the title I thought it was going to be how pretty boys turn guys gay, i dont know where it came from lol!

Anyhoo, back to your article, I think you are totally right. I've known a couple of these kind. I started out by totally hating them and finding them so vain that i didnt want any thing to do with them. But eventually i met them through common friends and found out how actually awesome they actually were and they didnt hold that 'up myself attitude' around us.

It made me realize that I judged them because of their appearance. Without digging deeper. And by getting to know them and having them as friends i realized that they were just wearing a mask. Try to be something they're not just to feel safe.

So anyhoo, maybe some day you'll change your mind chat with one of them and will also find your pretty boy best friend
on Jun 15, 2006
I ain't no pretty boy. I'm feo. Men aren't supposed to be pretty- we're supposed to be too busy taking care of business (personal and all other kinds) to have time to fuss over our looks. Get up in the morning, shower, throw on some clean clothes and start producing. Producing is how we get our value- by what we do, not how we look. It's somewhat meritocratic.

When I want beauty, I can look at my wife, not the mirror.

A real man is beautiful inside, but not necessarily outside.
on Aug 14, 2006
Well it has to be said that the advertising media is to blame for men taking the time they do to "make themselves look pretty"

When you look back at all the advertising gumph encouraging them to take care of their skin and moisturise etc. The movies also have scenes that imprint the desire to "look pretty" into men. With all the advertising "brainwashing" that has been happening, it is a small wonder they are spending hours in front of the mirror these days.

I too find pretty men to be a turn off. The camel advert type man is better - more rugged. Not sissy like!