I'm a chick. Well I was last time I checked. As a chick, I realise that women bitch about other women ALOT. Not all women do it, but a fair few that I know bitch, and moan about other women, and I don't understand why they do it.
Men are equally as guilty of this behaviour, I have listened to some men bitch, and they put us women to shame, they have it down to a fine art. I'm not talking about men though, because it is the women doing it that really bothers me.
I come from a family of mostly females. I went to an all girls school. So I have seen the darker side of women. We aren't all handbags and lip gloss. We have claws, and we aren't afraid to use them.
Girls usually form a group. There will be a small group who generally hang out together, and everyone will have a role to fill within said group. Think sex in the city, with less sex. There is usually a leader within the group. As with any group.
If anything comes to upset the dynamics of this group, there will be hell to pay, and a cat fight will ensue, and no doubt the bitching will commence.
Now I am making huge generalizations here, this isn't ALL women, and thank god it isn't. I have witnessed this behaviour on more occasions than I care to admit, and I am sure that I am just as guilty of this behaviour as other people. So let me tell you what I have seen. Girls like attention from the opposite sex. We like to feel attractive. To feel attractive makes us feel confident, makes us feel wanted, and anyone can appreciate that feeling. Some girls get used to recieving this kind of attention. We learn to use our sexuality to get what we want. We learn to manipulate. It is also pushed onto us that appearance is very important. That we must look a certain way. Our hair must be a certain way. We must be a certain size. We must dress a certain way. Women are taught that the way we present ourselevs to other, how we look, is extremely important, which is unfortunate, because there are so many other things to be learnt.
So when a girl is used to getting attention, and someone else comes and takes this attention away from her, the bitching starts. All this girl needs is for her skirt to be a little shorter and for a bit more of her boobies to be showing. Really it doesn't take alot to turn a young mans head. It should, but on many occasions the little guy downstairs is doing most of the thinking. Girls seem to think they have to compete, and their only way of making themselves feel better and in control of the situation is to bitch about the competition, to like minded females who will nod and agree in support. We do it about celebrities now. How often do you hear chicks laughing about how fat Britneys got? Or how stupid Paris is? Why do we feel that we have to put each other down?
Now celebrites build themselves up so much, that you can't really blame people for knocking them down. Especially when they are role models to young girls. Who see them do all kinds of things in the media. They see girls at a healthy weight, go on a diet so they can become a size zero. Don't eat, it will make you happy. Grrr! Anyway that is a separate topic. Girls, women, whatever should help each other, and support each other. I know that many do, and that's a great thing. I see girls, especially of my generation, who just can't wait to jump on each other when they see a weakness, and make themselves look better because of it. To me that shows some serious insecurities. Maybe that is just me though. In a world that is supposedly dominated by men, women should not be so quick to judge each other, and not so quick to bitch. We should understand where each other is coming from.
Solidarity Sisters!