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According to the experts, there is a science to love. Who knew? I came across an article that gave you 10 crazy facts about love...I am now going to share these facts with you JU...I know, you're lucky, hehe.....

1. It’s like looking in a mirror!

This one is pretty simple really, we like people that look like ourselves. A study was done with 200 participants, and they were asked to view digitally altered human faces. We like the features we are most familiar with, whether that be our own, or family members. Apparently there is also a "common phenomenon" of couples looking like they could be siblings. I always thought it was owners looking like their pets! I do understand this one. Once we do become more familiar with something we will start to relate positive things with it, and I can see how we would do that to a potential partner. First impressions are extremely important!

2. Manner, schmanners: Go ahead and stare.

So this is basically about eye contact. Sort of. Kind of. Apparently if a woman walks in a room, and she turns her eyes directly toward a certain man, she is considered to be more attractive than someone who doesn't make strong eye contact. A study was done, asking men to view pictures of fashion models and the pictures were changed so some were looking directly at the participant and others were looking away. They were asked to rate the likeability of the models, they found those that were turned away were less agreeable....whatever that means. I do see this one, there is something quite attractive about someone holding eye contact with you. Though I not sure attractive is the right word. It just lets you know they are attracted to you, or they are interested or whatever. I'm not sure it does make you rate them as attractive. Though I'm sure someone does become a little more attractive when you know they are attracted you. Rate them for having good taste, hehe!

3. You’ll know it when you see it.

I agree with this one completely. Basically we make decisions within moments of meeting someone to decide whether they are a potential partner or not. There has been thousands of studies of daters and it was found that within moments of meeting men and women assessed potential compatibility. Now it doesn't always work like this, you can get to know someone and they can become more attractive, or you find your first impressions were wrong. In alot of cases though there does need to be some kind of attraction, and many times that comes before we even speak to someone, so we judge them on attractiveness, height, age...whatever. The other stuff comes later.

4. Listen up.

I like this one! Haha....I don't know why, I just do. *cough* Sorry...got a little excited there. So there was a study done on 149 men and women. They had to listen to a series of recorded voices and rate their attractiveness on a scale of 1-10. The researchers had recorded the sexual history of the people whose voices they had recorded. The voices that were rated the most attractive were those of the people who had sex at an earlier age, had more sexual partners, and were prone to infidelity. I find voices very attractive, but maybe I should be careful of that in the future!

5. I couldn’t help it babe, it’s in my genes.

I'm not buying this one. Sorry. Infidelity isn't really down to someone being a dirty cheating pig. Oh no. It could be genetic. A study was done on twins. If one exhibits infidelity, the other twin strays 55% of the time. In the general population, the number is 23%. Well I'm convinced....They did raise a good point that to remain faithful is a component of personality, which is governed by a nukber of genes and societal factors. There are many different reasons why people cheat. Some people just get a kick out of it, and find it impossible to be with one person. Is it their genes? Maybe....but you could use that argument about anything. I just killed a man.....but it's in my genes. Maybe I'm just to cynical.....

6. It’s official. Love makes us crazy.

I'm just going to copy this one....it gets a little scientific....

For one, it causes serotonin levels in the brain to drop, which may lead people to obsess about their lover. (The levels of serotonin, a chemical produced by the body, are also low in people who have obsessive-compulsive disorder.) Next, it ramps up production of the stress hormone cortisol, leading to slightly higher blood pressure and possible loss of sleep. Finally, a scientist at the University of London has found that when people look at their new loves, the neural circuits that are usually in charge of social judgment are suppressed. All in all, love kind of leaves you obsessive, stressed, and blind. And we love it.

That explains my craziness then! Yay!

7. Why broken hearts hurt...

We all know it does. According to studies the psychological hurt of a break-up hurts just as much as a physical injury. Two areas of the brain that respond to physical injury also become activated when someone is dealing with social pain. We don't like the feeling of rejection. It hurts. Maybe that's why. I am sure there are other factors though. We aren't just dealing with rejection, we are dealing with loss too. Which can hurt, alot.

8. Blushing is best.

Yay! I'm a blusher. People prefer a rosy glow, according to research. It suggests you are in good health. They could of said it looks cute too......

9. Kiss this way.

124 pairs of smoochers (I hate that word) were analyzed, and 65% of them tilted their head to the right. That's the "right" way to kiss....apparently. Whatever floats your boat . Must of been alot of people hitting noses!

10. Meet for drinks before dinner.

This is another one of my favourites, hehe.....It just makes me giggle....Apparently hungry men prefer heavier women. Scientists went to a dining hall, and had hundreds of students fill out questionaires about potential partners. Men who filled the questionaire before they ate described their ideal woman as three or four pounds heavier than men interviewed after they had eaten. They did not find the same pattern in women. I can understand this one I think, but it is a man thing!

So there you go.....don't you feel like you've learnt something! Hehe...maybe not. Maybe love is even beyond science

Comments
on May 15, 2006
I think #1 is poppycock - at least where I am concerned.  I dont hate my looks, but then I dont want my mate to have my features either!
on May 15, 2006
Hmm, an interesting set of 'facts'. I don't know if there is particularly any real science behind most of them, but I'm prepared to accept these as much as anything else I've heard and read.

Oh, the things we do for love...
on May 16, 2006
I dont hate my looks, but then I dont want my mate to have my features either!


Hehe...yer I understand where you're coming from. I like men who are tall and bald....qualities I don't have!

I don't know if there is particularly any real science behind most of them, but I'm prepared to accept these as much as anything else I've heard and read.


Most of them made me giggle, I personally think people like to think that they have some control over these things. When in reality love comes and knocks you on your ass before you even realise it's love!

Thanks for the comments guys x
on May 16, 2006

I like men who are tall and bald....qualities I don't have!

Hmmm......Calling Telly Savalas for a hot date?

on May 16, 2006
....not quite, though I did have a crush on Goldberg (the wrestler) for a while. *Hangs head in shame*
on May 17, 2006
I like men who are tall and bald....qualities I don't have!


Well there goes my picture of you

I'm tall and nature is working on the bald part for me (much to my dismay).

Hangs head in shame*


Lust and crushes know no shame.
on May 18, 2006
Well there goes my picture of you


Haha....damn I should of kept my mouth shut!

Lust and crushes know no shame.


Yes, you don't need to tell me that. I worry about my own taste on many occasions!