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So I was watching the news this evening, catching up with what is going on in the world, and the headlines today were the news of a pregnant 63-year-old woman. After recieving IVF treatment, she and her 61-year-old husband are looking forward to the birth of their fourth child. She is seven months pregnant, so not long to wait!

I can't help but think that this is completely unfair to the child, and they are not considering just how challenging it will be for them physically. Children are hardwork, as they should know as they already have three children. There will be sleepless nights, chasing around after an excitable toddler, playing games, and providing support. It isn't just them that will feel the pressure though, what about the child? When the child is sitting their exams at school, and sixteen, their Mother will be 79, if they want to leave home, and go to university, their Mother will be then 81. Life Expectancy for females in Britain is 80 years old. I think them numbers speak for themselves.

I remember watching a television programme a while ago, about children who had older parents. I think sometimes we underestimate children, and their abilities to see things. One little girl pointed out that she saw most other childrens parents were much younger than her own. She worried about them, and their health. She worried that they would die. Should a child really have worries like that? I mean I'm sure it's something that goes through every childs head at some point, but should it be because their parents waited so late to have them?

I think it's wonderful that a child is brought into the world, and they will be loved and cared for, but it's not that simple is it? This couple already have children, so it's not like they were missing out on something. They wanted this child, and I'm sure at the moment they feel fit and healthy and more than capable of looking after a child. How long will that last though? Have they really thought about the future. Even just ten years down the line could see huge changes in their physical capabilities, and it will be some poor child that has to deal with that. That has to deal with the harsh reality of losing their parents very early in their life. I am 22, and I still need my Mum and Dad. When they are my age, their Mother will be 85. So somehow I imagine there will be some role reversal there.

It's done now, and there is no going back, and I do hope that everything goes well for them and the child. Lets hope their selfish needs don't get in the way of the child having a happy life. Even if they do only have a short time with their parents.

Comments
on May 04, 2006

I think that IVF shouldn't be allowed in people past the natural age of childbearing.  A woman of that age has gone through menopause for a reason.

I feel sorry for the child.  Their parents will be like living with Grandparents, and the child's children will never know them.

on May 04, 2006
I can't help but think that this is completely unfair to the child, and they are not considering just how challenging it will be for them physically


I can't help wondering about this myself.

She worried about them, and their health. She worried that they would die. Should a child really have worries like that?


I think most kids worry about losing their parents, but a child whose parents are as old as this would be acutely aware this. I don't think it is fair on the child at all.

on May 05, 2006

I can't help but think that this is completely unfair to the child, and they are not considering just how challenging it will be for them physically

Make that 3 of us.  If they raise the child to adulthood, they will be in their 80s.

on May 05, 2006
I think that IVF shouldn't be allowed in people past the natural age of childbearing. A woman of that age has gone through menopause for a reason.


The Doctor that provided this treatment says in the article that I linked, that he will consider giving anyone who has a lifespan of 20 years or over, IVF. Personally I just think that is wrong. So you get twenty years, if you're lucky with your child.

I feel sorry for the child. Their parents will be like living with Grandparents, and the child's children will never know them.


Same here, I just think they are thinking of themselves, and not considering the child.

I think most kids worry about losing their parents, but a child whose parents are as old as this would be acutely aware this.


Children are smart little cookies, they notice things, and the fact their parents are much older than everyone elses, will not escape them. It's not fair to put worries like that on such young shoulders.

Make that 3 of us. If they raise the child to adulthood, they will be in their 80s.


Yep, and soon it will be the child that is looking after them. I don't know how old their other children are, but I'm guessing they are probably old enough to parent a child, how strange is that!

Thanks for the comments x