No matter what sexuality you are, it is something you are born with, right? It isn't a choice of a lifestyle, you like men, or you like women. Someone doesn't grow up and suddenly think, oh I'm going to like men now. That for me isn't how it works. In the early years of deciding sexual orintation, maybe you are a little confused, maybe society tells you, you should like people of the opposite sex, and to fit in you do so. Deep down inside you know what you really like though, how can you not? Maybe accepting it is a little more difficult, but you do know which you like more no matter how much you fight it!
I had a friend once, she was a nice girl. When I first met her she had a boyfriend and we got on pretty well. I had known her for a while, and one day she told me she was bi-sexual. She liked both men and women. Now I am sure you can be attracted to both sexes, and this I didn't have a problem with. She however thought that passing on this information to me somehow changed our friendship. Now that I knew she was attracted to females she was able to flirt with me, and so on. I didn't actually mind the flirting. I flirt with male friends that I have no interest in, so why not female? I got the feeling she took this behaviour the wrong way though. If I didn't return her phonecalls straight away, she'd go weird on me. She complained I didn't spend to much time with her, she complained she didn't like my other friends, and they didn't treat me right. I am one of these people who likes my own space. For friends to complain about such things, just makes me want to give them a wide birth, and this is what I did with her. She presumed it was becuase she'd told me she liked women. I can't honestly say that didn't have a little to do with it, but that wasn't the main reason, it was her behaviour that bothered me more. I need space from all my friends, at times and she didn't respect that. The thing is a little after giving her some space, I saw her, and she'd decided she didn't like women anymore, just men. Huh?
I don't understand people who can jump from one sexual orientation to another. I don't understand going from liking women to men. I understand experimenting. Before I die, I want to kiss a woman. Not because I'm sexually attracted to women, because I'm not. I would like to see what it's like though. Do people just lie to themselves for however long, and then finally find the courage to tell other people. Are they capable of enjoying sex with a sex they apparently aren't attracted to? I understand you are born with a certain attraction to same/opposite sex. i don't understand how it can change. Doesn't that just lose respect for the gay community? I'm asking these questions, as I'm not sure of the answers!