and lots of waffling in between :)
*sigh* I'm in a miserable mood, I'm in one of them moods where curling up and throwing myself a pity party sounds like a pretty good idea, and I was going to dedicate this blog to my misery, but I decided against it, as I find my blogs just get more whigey by the day, so no personal stuff today, though part of my misery is because I'm poorly sick, and as we know I'm even more of a horror when I'm sick, hehe! Anywho, I asked my very wise Mum what I should write a blog about, and at first she didn't really understand what I was rambling on about, so I said think of an isse that bothers you that you'd like to voice an opinion on, or rant about or something along them lines, so she went away and had a think. She came back to me an hour or so later, looking very serious, and said I've thought about it and come up with.......facial hair on older women, that just really bothers me, ahh my Mum is going to change the world one day, I can feel it! Anyway I was tempted by this subject I really was but, what's there to say? Shaving is a big no, no. I was looking on the channel four website earlier and found information on a documentary I watched a while ago, and at the time it had everyone talking.....'fat girls and feeders'...here's my blog.
Not that I have a huge amount to say on this subject either, but I'm sure I'll find something to say. Body image is a huge part of everyday life. It brings people alot of problems. When asked I'm sure everyone can name at least one part of their body they are not entirely satisfied with, oooh my bums to big is currently my favourite one. Why is it such a huge issue. Because what we look like is what we are judged on. People don't get to know our personalities, they don't see we are kind, funny, caring people. They see what we look like, and we can't help but draw a few conclusions from that, by how are hair is, by what we a re wearing, if we are fat or thin, all sorts of things are factored in this. It is just human nature to draw these conclusions. We don't always get to know the personality either, so what the person looks like is all we are able to go off. Is body image that important? I'd like to say no it's not, that we are above that, and there's alot more to life, and in some peoples cases I'd like to think that is the truth, but unfortunately it is far to important to others. The way body image is portrayed in the media, it is a life or death situation. I can only talk from a ladies perspective, as I am one, but I'm sure men face similar things. Girls have these images of stick thin girls, who they are told are beautiful, and they should be like them. Teenage girls, only just starting out, starting to form their own views on life, still very impressionable, see these girls and want to be like them. They want boys to notice them, they want to be what they consider to be beautiful. It's not just selling being 'skinny' it's representing a lifestyle to you, and everything has to be perfect, face, hair, bum, legs, just what is the perfect girl? The beautiul girl gets the boy. I'm sure that's true, and I'm sure she gets a beautiful boy too, but shock, horror, there is more to life!
I have a good friend, who has a theory on this, a theory I don't buy into but I shall share it anyway. He is under the impression that beautiful girls have no personality, because they don't need to develop one, everything is already handed to them. Where as not so beautiful girls (can we please remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I refuse to use the word ugly!) develop a personality because basically they don't have much else to go off. So what guys should be looking for in his humble opinion is the 'average' girl.. Average looking, with an average personality, and you get the best of both worlds! I personally don't buy into this theory. First of all just as a girl shouldn't be judged for not being traditionally beautiful, a girl shouldn't be judged because she is considered to be beautiful. We should think she has no personality, please! That is not the case at all. That's just another form of positive discrimination. We are all different, and we consider different things to be beautiful, we like different personalities, we are attracted to different personalities. We like fat, thin, tall, short, black, white, the list goes on. It's all down to personal choice, just a note though, if a person does dismiss us because of the way we look, I'd like to suggest that person isn't worth our time in the first place.
Now this show, 'fat girls and feeders', though dealing with a body image, it was taken to unhealthy levels. These women were at the point where they could barely walk, everything had to be done for them. They spent most of their time in bed, and were basically just fed. They had partners who loved them, and they proved their love by looking after these women, dedicating their life to caring for them, nice huh? The programme suggest s that these men like this situation. They encourage these women to eat, force them to eat in some cases, and actually want them to gain weight, so that they are totally dependent on these men. This is actually what the men like, the power they have. So these women are victims? Hmmm...I have a tough time buying that completely, we are all in charge of what we do. None of these women were slim chicks by a long shot when they met these men, and these men are attracted to big women in the first place. So though they were encouraged by these men, they could have said no, obviously it reached a point where they had less and less choice about it, but they were capable of making their own decisions.
I think everyone has the right to live their life the way they want, to do their own thing, to look the way they wish to look, and shouldn't be judged on it, but lets not be ignorant enough to think that will be the case. Plus there are huge health issues to go with this lifestyle, it's not just about the couple being happy with each other, these women could actually die, and are they truely living? Sitiing in a bed all day, and having everything done for them, is that a life? One woman said she didn't like going out because people stared at her, and she was much happier staying inside. Happier? Really? Not getting to do all the things we get to do, going out, meeting people, laughing, joking, does she really have a life? I'm not judging maybe these women are truely happy, but I can't help but think that's only because they haven't experienced another way of life, that is all they know. Do these men really love them? Maybe they do, but surely they wouldn't be helping them to an early death if they really did.