After hearing the sad news about Heather Mills and Sir Paul McCartney, and their divorce, it got me thinking about marriage. Many people think that Heather was only ever with him for his money. Well I suppose that is something we will never know. She had a baby with this man and spent 4 years (ish) with him. So I guess there was some feelings there. However, she is set to recieve quite a settlement deal. If it was true love would she take all that money? Or would she accept just enough to take care of their child? Well we don't know what went on between them ,and we never will, so we can only presume. However, there are some people that do marry just for money. They spend a few years with someone, and then leave better off. Is it right to fool someone that you love them, when you really don't? I do find it hard to believe that people marry with that in mind, and don't really mean the sentiment that goes with marriage. It's quite a sad thing really.
When I get married, it will be forever. I will confidently look into the eyes of the man I love, and tell him it is forever, and I will mean it. I don't want to get divorced, I don't want my children to live between homes. I want them to have a Mummy and Daddy who live together and love each other. I realise that life doesn't always work like that. You can't always be sure that it will be forever. Sometimes things don't work out as a fairytale, and it's better to just separate, and go your own way. People just seem to do it so easily nowadays. The first sign of trouble and they are gone, moving on to the next person. Is true love not worth working at? Things won't always go swimmingly, there will be bad times and I think many people just give up to easily.
It seems to be a generation thing. Many older people seem to have been together for years, and are extremely happy. Or are they? Are they just so used to having each other that they don't know any other way. That it was so drilled into them that divorce wasn't an option that they stayed with the same person. Maybe not entirely happy? I wonder which generation is happier? I guess the question is are we made to have one partner? Or a number of different partners in different stages of our lives? I like to think that we are made to be with just one person. Once we find that person we are with them forever. Who knows though. Maybe as I get older, and see myself change more, I will see that you are made to be with different people. I guess I just like to have romantic notions, and think that I will find my soulmate.
Anyway, back to these people who just marry for money, and think marriage is nothing more than a cash register. Can we blame them, when there's such little importance on staying married? Maybe people just think that they should get what they can out of it, and love can wait. Isn't that just like prostituting yourself, but doing it for a longer period of time, and getting a bigger reward from it? A few years isn't long and many people can walk away from a marriage with enough money to set themselves up for the rest of their lives. I think that's like selling your soul. Peoples hearts are delicate things and they shouldn't be played with. There shouldn't be a price put on them. Maybe as I get older and more cynical I will lose these romantic notions. I hope not though.