I hate liars more than anything. With a passion I hate those that are capable of lying at the drop of a hat. I hate people who you invest trust and time into, and they repay you by lying through their back teeth to you. My trust does not come easily, there are few people in this world I trust, you could probably count the people I trust on one hand, and if I'm fully honest the only person I can truely trust with absolutely no fear of ever being let down is myself. No one else cares about me, like I care about me. No one looks out for me, like I look out for me. The only person I ever will have the full back up of is me. I can live with that, but living a life that you don't trust anyone, is a lonely life, and you do eventually have to let people in, to what extent is completely upto you, but slowly they will creep in. Slowly you will care about people, slowly people will become important to you. Friends, lovers, family, whatever. They will have some effect on your life. You will grow to trust them. When you find a partner, someone you feel you would be willing to spend the rest of your life with, you will trust them. You will place your heart in their hands, and pray they will be gentle with it. That they won't drop it on the floor and jump all over it. Because that hurts. Alot.
Which gets me on to partners that cheat. I have idealistic morals, morals that I think the world should live by, but when put in situations where these morals are tested, it's not always so easy to live by them. I'm not stupid, I know there is an exception to every rule, I know by not living by the same morals by me doesn't make you evil, by breaking these morals it doesn't make you evil. There are exceptions. I'm not interested in the exceptions at the moment. It's the spineless people that view cheating as a sport, as a competition, something they can brag to other people about. I was out a few weeks ago, and i was in a queue for a club or something and there was these two guys behind me. Now there conversation started off by rating the local talent, comments such as "oooh she's got nice tits" I can live with. They insulted a few people too. This also I can live with. Then they got into a conversation about previous relationships. They compared how many women they had cheated on! They had practically cheated on every single woman they had been with! Some didn't count though, if the woman wasn't so attractive, it was understandable they had being cheated on, and they should be grateful a lovely lad like him had given her the time of day in the first place. The length of the relationship was also important. If it was a short relationship, cheating didn't count. Also, and this is the best one, if you don't get caught, you don't technically cheat. How good is that one? Now me and my friend were listening to this conversation, and I could tell by her face she was thinking we should both turn around and bitch slap both these boys for all our sisters out there.
Women are the same, I'm not even trying to kid myself, thinking we are all angelic and incapable of such behaviour, we are probably more devious than men! I have friends who think it's ok to cheat. Because? Men are dogs and you are only beating them to what they will inevitably do to you. Two wrongs don't make a right in my book. I have a friend that actually gets a kick out of it, that she has the nice guy she goes out with and keeps as the caring boyfriend, who makes her feel great and all that stuff, then she has the bloke she keeps strictly for the bedroom. It's a turn on that she is doing something bad, that she might get caught. I can kind of understand that. The whole adrenaline rush. I understand it. I also think there are much better ways of getting your kicks than playing with other peoples emotions. What worries me is it is becoming the norm. It would be quicker for me to tell you the people I know who have never cheated.
Now apart from these people that cheat for the fun of it, those that never really care about either parties, and will quite happily move on to the next people. There are those that claim to be in love with both parties. They love two people and to make a choice is just to difficult. This is where my idealistic morals come into play. I don't think that is possible. If you truely love someone, then to look at another person to me would be impossible, to consider getting close to someone else, would not even cross my mind. To hurt that person I was in a relationship to that extent, would be impossible. I can never imagine doing it, I never have done it, and I never will do it. It's been done to me. I've invested time and emotion into someone, and I've had it thrown back in my face. Now when people find out that their significant other has done the dirty, why is it they go after the person that their partner is cheating with? it's your partner that owes you the trust, that dedicated themselves to you. Is it just easier to blame somone else than the person you love? Maybe, but we need to realise these people are not worth knowing in the first place, Remember there are exceptions, sometimes it is impossible to escape this situation. Sometimes you come across people you connect with on levels you never thought were possible, and one or both of you may be already partnered up. There are right ways of doing things though. You don't have to cheat.
If you come across someone who you think has the ability to make you cheat, or someone you wish to be with, then have the guts to end the relationship you are already in. Or at least being honest about your feelings. We are all human, obviously we find people we are attractive to. Of course we do, but are them people worth risking the relationship you already have? Or are you just a little bored, and looking for that adrenaline rush, believe me it's not worth it, risking what you already have. Just remember to be honest with yourself and those you love. It also works the other way. If you meet someone who is partnered up and you are attracted to them. My advice to you? Walk away. You're setting yourself up for fall, or someone else. If that person is truely for you, it will work out that way, without you having to cheat, and I truely believe that. Love is complicated in the first place, with two people, don't make it ten times worse. Maybe I just am idealistic.